Are you excited about your new year’s resolutions but questioning whether you’ll be able to stick with it? We often set New Year’s resolutions with the best of intentions, but sometimes our motivation wanes and our resolutions get sidelined. Don’t want that to happen this year? Commit to the following, and not only will you fulfill your resolutions, you will feel motivated and supported throughout the process!
WRITE IT DOWN. Seriously. Pick up a pen and write your goal/resolution on a piece of paper. Something changes when you write down a goal rather than just think it in your head. It makes it more real. It feels more attainable. Plus, once you have it on paper, post it up somewhere where you’ll see it on a regular basis. How’s that for motivation?
SHARE IT. It may feel cheesy, but always remember to share your goals with at least one person you trust. Not only will this person help hold you accountable, but they will support you in your commitment. The people in our lives want to support us, but they don’t know how to best support us unless they know what it is we’re trying to achieve.
SAY IT IN THE PRESENT. That means: “I run three times per week” rather than “I will try to run three times per week,” or “I am going to run three times per week.” When you say/write a goal in the present it suggests to your subconscious that your goal is possible NOW, that it is in fact happening now. This is a significantly more powerful way to make statements about the life you want to live… Just like Yoda said, “Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
BREAK IT DOWN. If your goal is an outcome of some sort (“I run a marathon,” or “I get a new job.”) it is essential that you break down your goal into the smaller action-items that will LEAD you to that outcome. If we only think about a looming outcome goal, we often get intimidated or paralyzed. Instead, focus on the everyday things under your control that will help deliver you to that desired outcome. Create an action-oriented game-plan and put your focus there.
MAKE IT CROSS-OFF-ABLE. The more specific you can make your goal, the better. It should always be something “cross-off-able,” which simply means you should know when you’ve actually achieved it. “I get stronger,” is NOT specific. How will you know when you’re “stronger,” and how “strong” is strong enough? We are more likely to feel motivated and stay committed to goals when we know exactly what we need to do. “I lift weights three times per week every week until March 31st” IS specific. You know if/when you’ve done it, and you can cross it off.